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SATURDAY JUNKS(3)



Whoop!!..whoop!!...**jumping up and dancing**...Saturday junks is back...I missed" me "on it(i missed writing it my own way,penning down my own thoughts) and of course hearing your own opinion in the comment section...
Y'all know I love Saturdays crazily...Can you guess why?...oopps!!..i can see someone scratching his/ head and saying something like"..this chysugar don come again ooo. .OK Guys,"scratch no more" ..hehehehehe ...**draws your ears closer and whispers**..Saturdays are  for weddings....Now. y'all know...*winks*
You all know how we do it on our "saturday junk posts''..we discuss marriages,weddings or relationships (Love related matters)
So today,i decided. I was gonna do a post on something that has really bothered me so much and of course am sure you must have heard one or two"aproko "gists on it....
 Am gonna be talking about "abusive relationships"...Ladies,some of us have in one time or the other been in an abusive relationship but we were too engrossed to notice..So the question is"..
1.How do you know if you're in an abusive relationship?

Inorder to answer the above question,lets narrow it down to atleast ..erhmmm:
10 WARNING SIGNS THAT SHOWS YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP 

1. There is jealousy. Your partner is excessively possesive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.

2.He is controlling. He interrogates you intensely about who you talked to and where you were; checks mileage on the car; keeps all the money or asks for receipts; insists you ask for permission to go anywhere or do anything.**rolls eyes**..who still does that?

3.There is verbal abuse. He constantly criticizes you or says cruel things; degrades, curses, calls you ugly names. He will use vulnerable points about your past/life against you.

4.He has very unrealistic expectations. He expects you to be the perfect person and meet their every need.
5. There is isolation. He tries to cut you off from family and friends; deprives you of a phone or car, or tries to prevent you from holding a job.
6. He blames others for his own mistakes.The boss, family, you - it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong.
7. He makes everyone else responsibile for their feelings. The abuser says, "You make me angry" instead of "I'm angry." "I wouldn't get so pissed off if you wouldn't...
8. There is hypersensitivity. He Is easily insulted and will often rant and rave about injustices that are just part of life.
9. He is cruel to animals and children. He kills or punishes animals brutally. He also may expect children to do things beyond their ability, or tease them until they cry
10.There are rigid gender roles. He Expects you to serve, obey, and remain at home.


Bonus: He has sudden mood swings. He switches from loving to angry in a matter of minutes.
Have you ever experienced these warning signs?..How did you overcome it?
Please share with us in the comment section...
Have a fabulous weekend
I love y'all
Xoxo!!!

Comments

Anonymous said…
Wow this is a nice write up..thanks babes,i learnt something today..yaaay!!
#chommy
Chy 🌹 said…
Awww..tnks chommy for visiting and am glad you learnt something**winks
Amara Kay said…
Aunty chy pls are u a make up artists? ??

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